Exude dominance or composure instead of anger to get your way. Keeping your cool when anger is expected is powerful for persuasion and manipulation.
Anger, like love and hunger is both an emotional and physical response that we can’t help manifesting.
There are countless triggers for this and one of them is when we can’t get our way or what we want in any given interpersonal situation.
So we let it get the better of ourselves and aggressively retaliate by using that spike of energy as a weapon to force our will on to others.
Showing anger, the more perceivable the anger, may seem like power but it’s actually a sign of weakness or at the least, a momentary loss of self-control.
“Speak when you are angry – and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” -Laurence J. Peter
I’m not saying don’t get angry, just don’t show it. Because we can’t help getting angry. What matters is how we handle ourselves in those situations.
Let’s face it, showing anger does get results. But so does pointing a gun at someone’s face or holding a pregnant lady hostage to get what you want.
Using the show of anger as a tool to get what you want works with children and less strong-minded individuals because of fear.
It also works in places of business because they don’t want you to cause a scene.
Now think about that, do you want to be the person that intimidates children and weaker people than yourself as well as being a public nuisance?
As effective anger may seem, there’s a better way:
Exude dominance. Show strength without force. Be stern but kind. Never show anger. Keeping your cool when anger is expected is a powerful tool, especially to the wise, intelligent and people of influence.
“Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to ourselves than the injury that provokes it.” -Lucius Annaeus Seneca
Being feared can get you some things but being respected can get you anything, sans the negatives.